February 20
- Driving, window slightly open, light snow falling
- Conversations about real things
- Horseradish aioli
We all have conversations. We talk with friends, co-workers, family. Sometimes (often?) with ourselves. (I’ve found this brand to be particularly ineffective). Most conversations have a level of depth that is established by the relationship. That level only changes if one or both parties are a) willing to and b) initiate change.
If you’ve been following along these last few weeks, you will find in these words that I’ve been going through some changes. Recognizing that life definitely moves quickly and ends at whatever moment it chooses. I’ve started to truly believe that good and light are the foundation of it all and when I stop trying to fight, and instead simply steer, I am happier. Better.
After some time has been put into a relationship and a willingness to be vulnerable (again, at varying levels), you have a sense of where the line is in a conversation. Occasionally, you will find a person with whom you can continually push the line of vulnerability and they respond positively. It is as if they see where you are going and trust you enough to go there with them.
This requires a lot. And I’m grateful to have found some people in my life-life and work-life who can relate in this way. I have a long-standing belief that we need to share what we have gone through or are going through with others. This belief, with my newfound desire to be engaged with whatever is going on, but without seeking any sort of personal gain, has been life-altering.
I’ve found I care about others in true and connected ways. I’ve found I appreciate other people and the way in which the interact with life. By being more open and vulnerable, and being genuinely interested in others, I am finding life to be deeply rich in new and exciting ways. I highly recommend these things.